Wednesday: Ways to Question the Voice in Your Head (Especially the Mean One)

A Week of Little Thoughts about Life

“You’re forty years old and what do you have to show for it?”

“Since you had the baby, you look disgusting.”

“You’re a fraud — if people knew what a mess you really were, you’d be alone.”

“People don’t really love you, they just use you.”

Aren’t these sentences hard to even read? Isn’t there something even more awful about the fact that this is the tape that many people have going in their own heads?

Our thoughts, our inner voices — guide our moods, our decisions, our interactions with others — and all of us have them. We all have parts of our personality that speak up and loudly at different times — sometimes the voices/thoughts we grapple with are mean and self-flagellating. Some people deal with this daily and even hourly — for others of us, the mean voice, comes up only occasionally. The mean voice is certainly related to shame, and I’ve written about that a bit before https://medium.com/@katyfriedmanmil/the-shame-wizard-vs-you-dont-worry-i-ve-got-your-back-bd6fd68fc59f. Understanding shame and learning about shame (read anything by Brene Brown) can begin a core healing process.