Just Because Someone Is Dead, Doesn’t Mean You Have to Like Them

Katy Friedman Miller

7 min readApr 9, 2019

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Or…Speaking Ill of the Dead

“ You should never say anything bad about
the dead, only good. Joan Crawford is dead.
Good. “ - Bette Davis on the death of Joan Crawford

About 10 years ago the father of a friend of mine died. During my friend’s childhood and teen years, his dad…

Katy Friedman Miller

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I’m a grief therapist and former hospice social worker. Sharing stories from life, death, and work and where they all intersect. TEDx talk at www.ted.com

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